sure she has a life she has a job, but the moment she's not at it she's at mine she has a dog which she brings over to my apartment with her she has friends which she must not see very often since she's always with me
i sound ungrateful i know she's very special and she's amazing i just can't be responsible for everything she hinges her happiness on
( there's a bit of a delay on kimberly's end while she tries to figure out what to suggest. if she's honest, it just sounds like maybe sansa is being a little clingy for a hip millennial girlfriend, but it doesn't seem fair to blame her for that either. since, you know, sansa's neither hip nor a millennial... even if kimberly's been trying to slowly but surely drag her into the new century. )
when robbie and i first starting dating like actually dating
( because there was that whole messy period where they were hooking up but not actually Dating... )
i think i was pretty clingy too it's just a girl thing we get excited
it's just - i feel like there's a power imbalance she's used to like. being submissive to whoever she's with and not be able to have what she wants or tell anyone to fuck off and that's just not right, if she thinks she has to be at like, my beck and call
i don't think she thinks that though like any time i ask her if she wants to go to a movie or go dancing with us or whatever, she always says she wants to make sure you guys don't have plans i don't think she's worried you're gonna say no
she really likes you she just seemed upset that you didn't want her around
but see, that's the problem she thinks she has to defer to me and my thoughts and what i want or don't want to do she's not thinking 'oh yeah i want to do this' and just does it she doesn't have to ask my permission to live her life
you say that like you think i don't like her right back
you know i do the same thing, right? i check with robbie to make sure we don't have plans or that he didn't want to hang out before i go out with other people i'm not deferring to him or asking him if i can i just don't want to bail on him if we're supposed to do stuff or if he wanted to hang out with me
also, duh. i know you like her, dummy that's why i'm trying to help you not screw this up
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i did say that and that's how this happened
sure she has a life
she has a job, but the moment she's not at it she's at mine
she has a dog which she brings over to my apartment with her
she has friends which she must not see very often since she's always with me
i sound ungrateful
i know she's very special and she's amazing
i just can't be responsible for everything she hinges her happiness on
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when robbie and i first starting dating
like actually dating
( because there was that whole messy period where they were hooking up but not actually Dating... )
i think i was pretty clingy too
it's just a girl thing
we get excited
it's nice to have somebody to take care of
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i'll talk to her about it, i know
it's just - i feel like there's a power imbalance
she's used to like. being submissive to whoever she's with
and not be able to have what she wants
or tell anyone to fuck off
and that's just not right, if she thinks she has to be at like, my beck and call
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like any time i ask her if she wants to go to a movie or go dancing with us or whatever, she always says she wants to make sure you guys don't have plans
i don't think she's worried you're gonna say no
she really likes you
she just seemed upset that you didn't want her around
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she thinks she has to defer to me and my thoughts and what i want or don't want to do
she's not thinking 'oh yeah i want to do this' and just does it
she doesn't have to ask my permission to live her life
you say that like you think i don't like her right back
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i check with robbie to make sure we don't have plans or that he didn't want to hang out before i go out with other people
i'm not deferring to him or asking him if i can
i just don't want to bail on him if we're supposed to do stuff or if he wanted to hang out with me
also, duh.
i know you like her, dummy
that's why i'm trying to help you not screw this up
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and i just need to put my thoughts in order, and then i'll sit down with sansa
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let me know how it goes
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speak later, kimbi
thanks for the pep talk